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November 27th, 2016 12:06 PM

“Maybe...”

I hope you had a Thanksgiving holiday filled with wonderful food, supportive people, and stress-free travels! However, I’m firmly grounded in the world where bad things take the day off, just so we can live in a moment of perceived perfection. People still die, they still get in car wrecks, still have weird little accidents like shooting a big toe off while in a duck blind. I’ve also heard from many clients about how nervous they were about visiting family members with vastly different political views, or how guilty they felt about “escaping” from an ailing parent, or for the “inevitable” holiday blowup around some long-held childhood grudge/addiction issue/relationship insecurity. Maybe it didn’t happen, maybe it did, but hey, Christmas is just around the corner, so now we can just wait a few more weeks! I’m sure it’ll kick in then! (tongue firmly in cheek here)

I’m not gonna lie. I was one of those people who felt disappointed in the outcome of the election. Soon after the results were announced, I began to notice something extraordinary. Inside all of the cacophony of outrage and cheering, a quiet movement began. One that, at its core, was compassion personified. No, I’m not talking about the safety pin movement (http://elitedaily.com/news/politics/everything-need-consider-wearing-safety-pin-ally/1699257/) or the clarion call for empathy on both sides (http://qz.com/826733/us-election-2016-lack-of-empathy-is-causing-a-toxic-political-environment/). I’m talking about the wake-up call that we all got as a nation during the campaign. It’s mirrored in family units and business relationships as well. Here’s my golden nugget:

We do not live in a vacuum. We all have a part to play, and ALL voices are necessary.

I was speaking to David Barnes, a dear friend who has created an innovative healing modality with his business partner, Sue-Anne MacGregor, using the power of movies. At his recommendation, my husband and I watched “A Late Quartet”, a wonderful 2012 film about the power of teamwork. I found it on Amazon Prime. He articulates this beautifully using this movie’s theme on 5 key elements of teamwork. I highly recommend watching this in a mixed group with ample time afterwards for discussion. Its cerebral message and gorgeous music will instantly transport you above any energetic sludge left over from the holidays. Make no mistake. We are all on the American team. Our Family of Origin team. Our Tribe of Like-Minded Friends team. And many, many other teams that require cooperation with disparate points of view. You can find his changework session notes here: https://peaceofmindovertures.com/heart-aligned-leadership-five-empowering-ways-to-improve-teamwork/ 

Hindsight is always 20/20. We may have just sent our lovely world on a disastrous path towards doom and destruction. Or we may have done the exact opposite and given our collective selves an enormous gift that will draw us together more cohesively than ever before. I am reminded of an old Buddhist proverb:

 

“An old farmer had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. 

"Maybe," the farmer replied. The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.

"Maybe," replied the old man. The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "Maybe," answered the farmer. The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. "Maybe," said the farmer.” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OX0OARBqBp0)

 

It’s perfectly acceptable to feel anger, elation, outrage, joy, disgust, and relief over this governmental transition process. The most important thing is to use this as rocket fuel. Allow it to propel you into action. Funnel it into volunteering for causes that you support, into creative activities, or into your work life. Take off the suit of despair that someone else may have given you. Shrug off the feelings of superiority because “you knew it”. None of that serves you, and simply keeps you locked into an old pattern of isolation and mental stagnation.

Get to know people with opposing ideas. You just might find out that you have more in common than you thought. By doing this, we will all thrive.

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Posted by Beverly Biehl on November 27th, 2016 12:06 PMPost a Comment